I grew up in households where substance abuse, physical abuse, dysfunction, and chaos were almost everyday occurrences. There were seven marriages and six divorces between my mom and dad.  Living in a constant state of crisis and survival had an impact. I learned how to lie and show up looking good, always pretending I “had it all together”.  It worked for a while. I excelled in my career, but maintaining this outward appearance took so much energy that I was constantly exhausted.  I felt like a fraud, always on the edge of sanity.  By the time I was 26 years old, I had been married, divorced, and gone through several long-term relationships. My standard operating procedure was to isolate and withhold - from my friends, family, and myself. I had no idea how to have good relationships, let alone extraordinary ones.  I needed help and was determined to find it!  

Miraculously, I began to meet coaches and mentors who provided me with a powerful set of distinctions and ways of being that literally transformed my life, from the inside out!  These people regarded me as a fully capable human being but didn’t sugar-coat anything. They could give me the training and distinctions to be successful, but I had to choose healthy for myself and do the work. The circumstances of my life did not have to hold me hostage!   

Today, I am a coach and mentor with 30+ years of experience helping others heal themselves and create extraordinary relationships. I have been married to my best friend, Gary Clarke, for 33 years. We have two grown daughters who are happy and successful and love being around us! I have restored relationships with my family and built solid, lasting friendships. My life is open and joyful, and yours can be, too!  

Imagine the freedom your life could have if you could heal every relationship, past and present, bringing each one current and keeping them current so that nothing is in the space but love and affinity.  This is the possibility of relationship and the gift you can give yourself.